Take a few minutes now and think of your childhood. Do you remember a time when he was deeply misunderstood without being seen unprecedented?
How did you feel at that time? Is likely to be felt crushed, broken, broken heart, alone and powerless against his father, caregiver, teacher, brother or friend. But these feelings are very large - too large for a child. What did you do? Do you stop and numb their feelings in some way, or you cry, angry, get revenge or resistance?
Do you remember a different time, when it was deeply seen, heard and understood? Have you ever felt this, or has no memory every time you fully received? Was there not to turn to for help, comfort and understanding?
Too many children grow up without being fully received - it never feels completely seen, evaluated, heard and understood - do not feel like. ( 'Grok' is a term coined by Robert Heinlein in his wonderful book "stranger in a foreign country." We are "assimilated" when we are deeply seen, heard and understood.)
When we do not like, we must guard against this break feel the pain, so we developed our many protections to avoid our feelings and try to have control over others see and hear us. But the conundrum is that we will never be assimilated when we protect ourselves with our different control addictive behavior.
The challenge for all of us as adults is to learn to manage the intense anxiety of not being seen or heard. Learn to handle the feeling of breaking distress in our body can be very difficult - especially if we have experienced the trauma of violence.
Learning to manage anxiety and helplessness in relation to other
The first skill you need to develop is to learn to be nice to you and hopefully learn to feel sorry for himself. Kindness and compassion for yourself allows your inner child know that you see, hear and understand yourself - that Grok yourself. When you judge you by your feelings of pain, you let your inner child knows that you do not see and appreciate. This rejection of itself cause more pain.
Even if you still can not tolerate feelings of anxiety, loneliness and helplessness of not being seen and appreciated, even if you still can not feel sorry for himself, to be a very nice practice with all their feelings - even if you feel numb.
Compassion is not a feeling we generate in our own being. There is a feeling and invite us to open. It is a gift of the Spirit, and when opening to learn about love with your higher self, you can consciously invite compassion in his heart.
If you know they have been traumatized and perhaps suffering from post-traumatic stress, it is vital for the treatment of trauma. You can learn the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and Trauma release exercises (TRE) online, and you can work with a facilitator desensitization and reprocessing eye movement (EMDR), Somatic Experiencing (SE), or other trauma and useful healing therapies. The important thing is to heal your body enough so you can feel tolerate the anxiety of not being assimilated, and learn to manage rather than avoid.
Without being able to feel your feelings, you will not be able to see and hear you. You will continue to reject and abandon as his application was rejected and abandoned are abandoned.
deep healing comes when you learn to assimilate - to see, hear and deeply value who you are and what you feel. Often this means that you must feel deeply seen and appreciated by another, which is what happens in a good therapy or facilitation.
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How did you feel at that time? Is likely to be felt crushed, broken, broken heart, alone and powerless against his father, caregiver, teacher, brother or friend. But these feelings are very large - too large for a child. What did you do? Do you stop and numb their feelings in some way, or you cry, angry, get revenge or resistance?
Do you remember a different time, when it was deeply seen, heard and understood? Have you ever felt this, or has no memory every time you fully received? Was there not to turn to for help, comfort and understanding?
Too many children grow up without being fully received - it never feels completely seen, evaluated, heard and understood - do not feel like. ( 'Grok' is a term coined by Robert Heinlein in his wonderful book "stranger in a foreign country." We are "assimilated" when we are deeply seen, heard and understood.)
When we do not like, we must guard against this break feel the pain, so we developed our many protections to avoid our feelings and try to have control over others see and hear us. But the conundrum is that we will never be assimilated when we protect ourselves with our different control addictive behavior.
The challenge for all of us as adults is to learn to manage the intense anxiety of not being seen or heard. Learn to handle the feeling of breaking distress in our body can be very difficult - especially if we have experienced the trauma of violence.
Learning to manage anxiety and helplessness in relation to other
The first skill you need to develop is to learn to be nice to you and hopefully learn to feel sorry for himself. Kindness and compassion for yourself allows your inner child know that you see, hear and understand yourself - that Grok yourself. When you judge you by your feelings of pain, you let your inner child knows that you do not see and appreciate. This rejection of itself cause more pain.
Even if you still can not tolerate feelings of anxiety, loneliness and helplessness of not being seen and appreciated, even if you still can not feel sorry for himself, to be a very nice practice with all their feelings - even if you feel numb.
Compassion is not a feeling we generate in our own being. There is a feeling and invite us to open. It is a gift of the Spirit, and when opening to learn about love with your higher self, you can consciously invite compassion in his heart.
If you know they have been traumatized and perhaps suffering from post-traumatic stress, it is vital for the treatment of trauma. You can learn the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and Trauma release exercises (TRE) online, and you can work with a facilitator desensitization and reprocessing eye movement (EMDR), Somatic Experiencing (SE), or other trauma and useful healing therapies. The important thing is to heal your body enough so you can feel tolerate the anxiety of not being assimilated, and learn to manage rather than avoid.
Without being able to feel your feelings, you will not be able to see and hear you. You will continue to reject and abandon as his application was rejected and abandoned are abandoned.
deep healing comes when you learn to assimilate - to see, hear and deeply value who you are and what you feel. Often this means that you must feel deeply seen and appreciated by another, which is what happens in a good therapy or facilitation.
http://www.annonces.immo-reve.com/
https://www.facebook.com/immo.reve.tn
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