Those who know us also know that it has not been easy for us, with many obstacles on the way. But we are here, always together and yes, happy. That's why I decided to share with you some of the things that work for us. I hope they can help you be together and happy too.
The most important building block of our partner is that we choose to share our lives and grow together. We both decided to walk TOGETHER in this life. It means we support each other and share goals and dreams. None of us walk and the other follows. No, WE WALK TOGETHER. Whenever there is something new in our lives, whether it's something in theirs or in mine, we sit down together to discuss it. Then we decided what to do. Once again, together.
All this means that our paths are constantly aligned. We make the effort and take the time to make sure we are both in tune. My husband obviously has his goals and dreams. I also have mine. But what we do is to make sure that reaching theirs and getting to mine helps us one way or another or at least does not negatively affect the other. For example, we both work. We try to organize our trips abroad so that one of us is at home, making things happen. When I leave, he stays and takes charge. When he leaves, I stay and I take things in hand. He understands that my development and professional achievement are as important to me as to him.
My husband often says that a relationship would be very unsatisfactory if the other person does not feel satisfied and has nothing to share with their partner. This does not mean that we should all work outside the home or pursue professional goals. What we mean by this is that both partners in a relationship should be able to feel satisfied in all important aspects of their lives. If a person feels happy staying at home and the couple can live like this, without fail, go for it! If both need to work outside because professional development is important for both, try to find a way to achieve it. Healthy and strong couples are based on healthy and strong human beings, and to be healthy, each member of a couple must feel they are living a rewarding life. If one of the partners feels dissatisfied, undisputed, bored, hopeless, the couple will surely suffer and probably fail.
Do you know what your other important person wants in life? Are you sure to get it or at least continue it? And you, do you feel satisfied, rewarded, satisfied? Do you do what you want?
There will be times when one member of the couple will have to do things just to help the other member achieve their goals. This is good as long as it is a joint decision and does not perpetuate any disadvantage or discontent for any of the partners. Sit together. Talk about your dreams Listen to each other! Try to find common ground, common goals and dreams. Then make a plan. Yes, take a paper and a pen and write a plan to help achieve your dreams together or your individual dreams together and support each other without suffering. Look for synergies that can advance both. If only one of you advances and achieves your goals, the plan will eventually fail sooner or later.
Any couple who wants to share a life should be a team of two. Later, maybe, one more team. But as a team, all decisions must be made together, taking into account the well-being of the team and its members. If only one of the team members is happy, the team will eventually break. As simple as that.
Some people say to me, "I like sacrificing myself for my partner and making sure that he / she achieves the goals. That makes me happy.' Really? I answer. If helping your partner reach goals makes him happy and satisfied because he does not have personal goals, something is missing. What do you want? If helping your partner achieve his goals makes him happy and satisfied because his partner makes him feel appreciated and loved, and that's what he REALLY really, wow! But because you want it.
My first advice for a healthy and sustainable relationship is to make sure both partners lead what they see as a rewarding and rewarding life. If one of you is not, sit down together and find out what stops you.
The most important building block of our partner is that we choose to share our lives and grow together. We both decided to walk TOGETHER in this life. It means we support each other and share goals and dreams. None of us walk and the other follows. No, WE WALK TOGETHER. Whenever there is something new in our lives, whether it's something in theirs or in mine, we sit down together to discuss it. Then we decided what to do. Once again, together.
All this means that our paths are constantly aligned. We make the effort and take the time to make sure we are both in tune. My husband obviously has his goals and dreams. I also have mine. But what we do is to make sure that reaching theirs and getting to mine helps us one way or another or at least does not negatively affect the other. For example, we both work. We try to organize our trips abroad so that one of us is at home, making things happen. When I leave, he stays and takes charge. When he leaves, I stay and I take things in hand. He understands that my development and professional achievement are as important to me as to him.
My husband often says that a relationship would be very unsatisfactory if the other person does not feel satisfied and has nothing to share with their partner. This does not mean that we should all work outside the home or pursue professional goals. What we mean by this is that both partners in a relationship should be able to feel satisfied in all important aspects of their lives. If a person feels happy staying at home and the couple can live like this, without fail, go for it! If both need to work outside because professional development is important for both, try to find a way to achieve it. Healthy and strong couples are based on healthy and strong human beings, and to be healthy, each member of a couple must feel they are living a rewarding life. If one of the partners feels dissatisfied, undisputed, bored, hopeless, the couple will surely suffer and probably fail.
Do you know what your other important person wants in life? Are you sure to get it or at least continue it? And you, do you feel satisfied, rewarded, satisfied? Do you do what you want?
There will be times when one member of the couple will have to do things just to help the other member achieve their goals. This is good as long as it is a joint decision and does not perpetuate any disadvantage or discontent for any of the partners. Sit together. Talk about your dreams Listen to each other! Try to find common ground, common goals and dreams. Then make a plan. Yes, take a paper and a pen and write a plan to help achieve your dreams together or your individual dreams together and support each other without suffering. Look for synergies that can advance both. If only one of you advances and achieves your goals, the plan will eventually fail sooner or later.
Any couple who wants to share a life should be a team of two. Later, maybe, one more team. But as a team, all decisions must be made together, taking into account the well-being of the team and its members. If only one of the team members is happy, the team will eventually break. As simple as that.
Some people say to me, "I like sacrificing myself for my partner and making sure that he / she achieves the goals. That makes me happy.' Really? I answer. If helping your partner reach goals makes him happy and satisfied because he does not have personal goals, something is missing. What do you want? If helping your partner achieve his goals makes him happy and satisfied because his partner makes him feel appreciated and loved, and that's what he REALLY really, wow! But because you want it.
My first advice for a healthy and sustainable relationship is to make sure both partners lead what they see as a rewarding and rewarding life. If one of you is not, sit down together and find out what stops you.
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